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Are You Married or are you Murried?

16 ways to make sure you have a long lasting healthy marriage and not a seven eleven wedding.

A.j Thomas
9 min readSep 27, 2020

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Marriage is on the decline for today youngsters. Marriage doesn’t even have the same definition as it used to. According to Urban Dictionary the definition of marriage is : the number one cause for divorce.

Most women have dreamt of their wedding day since they were very little girls. In today’s world, there are a whole lot more mis-marriages, and Lucy-Ricky marriages than high-school sweethearts, and marriages like Kurt Russel and Goldie Hawn.

I’ve compiled a list of the 16 best pieces of marriage advice according to hopeless romantics that have been married 50+ years and know their stuff. So let’s hope you take their advice to avoid a ring and fling with your not so ball and chain.I’m not going to sit here and lie to you. Marriage is no picnic. It is hard work, not exactly a walk in the park, unless of course that park is Jurassic Park. It takes patience, kindness, understanding and be prepared to do a whole lot of forgiving. Trust me, when someone who has survived the trenches of matrimony gives you advice (especially before you jump the broom) it would behoove you to listen. Get out a pen and paper and take notes.

1.Let them know you are thinking about them

Life gets hectic from time to time. We all get stressed out and we let our love life take the backseat to work, kids, chores, family and financial stress. It won’t take 5 minutes out of your day to send a 2 sentence text to your significant other and let them know that they are on your mind and that you appreciate all they do and you don’t take them for granted. You would be surprised how far a simple “you are on my mind” or “I can’t stop thinking about you, miss you and can’t wait to see you” text will go.

2. Let them express their feelings first.

We all have problems, or bad days. We all need to vent or a shoulder to cry on. Next time you and your partner are sitting down for a conversation, let them get all of their emotions out and vent their crappy day at work or at home with the kids first. Wait until they are finished before you take your…

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A.j Thomas

Literary gutter vixen words of love and lust, sprinkled in pixie dust.